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Therapy for Perfectionism
Finding a healthier relationship with your drive, expectations, and inner critic.
Perfectionism may have helped you achieve a great deal. It can bring determination, responsibility, and high standards—but it can also come with relentless self-criticism, anxiety, and the feeling that what you do is never quite enough.
I offer online perfectionism therapy for adults in New York, New Jersey, Connecticut, and Florida who feel caught between striving to do their best and feeling that they are never doing enough.
In our work together, we can explore the pressure beneath perfectionism and find a way to move forward without being driven by fear, exhaustion, or constant self-doubt. Therapy is not about taking away your ambition. It is about understanding what drives your perfectionism and developing a more supportive relationship with yourself.
When Perfectionism Becomes a Burden
Perfectionism often develops for a reason. High expectations, family or cultural messages, fear of mistakes, or the need to feel accepted and valued can all shape the way we learn to strive.
Many people who struggle with perfectionism appear capable and successful on the outside while experiencing significant anxiety, self-doubt, or pressure internally. What may look like high achievement from the outside can sometimes come with a constant sense of needing to do more, do better, or avoid mistakes.
What once helped you succeed or feel safe may eventually become exhausting. You might notice yourself overthinking decisions, preparing excessively, struggling to rest, comparing yourself to others, or dismissing your accomplishments as soon as you achieve them.
What We Can Work On
Together, we may explore:
Softening harsh self-criticism without losing your motivation
Understanding the emotional roots of perfectionistic patterns
Becoming more comfortable with mistakes, uncertainty, and imperfection
Separating your sense of worth from achievement or performance
Finding more room for rest, creativity, connection, and enjoyment
Developing greater self-compassion and internal steadiness
Beyond Understanding Your Perfectionism
You may already understand intellectually that your expectations are too high or that you are too hard on yourself. Yet knowing this does not always change how you feel.
In our work, we pay attention not only to your thoughts, but also to the emotional and physical experience underneath the pressure—the tension, fear, shame, or vulnerability that may arise when you slow down or consider doing something differently.
My approach is experiential, attachment-informed, and grounded in AEDP psychotherapy, helping you develop a different relationship with the parts of yourself that have learned to push, criticize, or demand perfection.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is perfectionism the same as anxiety?
Not necessarily, although they often overlap. Perfectionism may show up as overpreparing, fear of mistakes, difficulty delegating, or intense self-criticism. Anxiety can be part of that pattern, but the deeper pressure may also involve self-worth, fear of disappointing others, or the need to remain in control.
Do you work with imposter syndrome?
Yes. Perfectionism and imposter feelings often occur together. You may have clear accomplishments and still feel that you are somehow not good enough or will eventually be “found out.” Therapy can help us understand both the beliefs and emotional experiences that keep this cycle going.
Do you offer therapy in Japanese?
Yes. Sessions are available in English, Japanese, or a combination of both.
Where do you provide therapy?
I provide online therapy for adults in New York, New Jersey, Connecticut, and Florida.
Ready to Begin?
You do not have to give up the qualities that have helped you succeed in order to live with less pressure.
If you are curious about whether therapy might help you develop a more supportive relationship with yourself, I invite you to get in touch.